I've been raising an autistic son for 20 years. I know exactly what she went through. My son is severe enough that I was forced early on to stop making comparisons as it was nothing but a path to sadness and despair. And it's not that I secretly want to make these comparisons and believe my son is somehow superior. I've deeply internalized the lesson that most judgments and comparisons are a pathway to suffering. I do feel compassion for the author because based on the post, she hasn't come to the same realization.