My autistic son is 20, and he's prone to lose control when his anxieties kick in. We had an incident on Friday, and he squeezed his mother hard. His anxiety passes quickly, and he feels remorse over his actions, but the remorse isn't strong enough to stop him from doing it. The last two times, we forgave him quickly, but this last time, we took away all his pleasures and his weekend was pretty boring, very negative by his life standards. Not making him endure more severe consequences hasn't been working, so we kept reminding him that he lost his privileges because he hurt his mother. We hope to drive home the point that when he hurts people, it has negative consequences. We don't know if this will have any greater impact, but having little or no consequence wasn't working.