Please take some time to formulate your thoughts and edit out the extraneous material. Eighty percent of this article was drivel. I’m not really clear on what your main arguments are.

To your point, yes your partners past behaviors is relevant, sexual and otherwise. You have the freedom to decide to pursue or not to pursue any relationship for any reason. You don’t need to justify your decisions to anyone. This is your basic freedom to choose. Nobody gets to pick your criteria for you.