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The Mistaken Beliefs that Ruined My Marriage: Lessons from the Wreckage

When Marriage Fails: A Journey Through Divorce and Self-Discovery (Part 3 of 5)

11 min readNov 11, 2024

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Part 1: Marriage Isn’t Forever: Love’s Hope and Lust’s Flame

Part 2: A Marriage Worn Thin by Life: The Slow Death of Dreams and Hope

I’m blessed that I’ve always had genuine self-confidence, not complete, not unshakable, but durable enough to feel prideful certainty in areas where ignorance reigned.

I built up mistaken beliefs that undermined my marriage. They took root quietly, twisting my actions, warping my perspective, making me forget the core of who I was.

I acted in ways that stripped me of my strength and eroded the confidence I’d once wielded like a warrior.

This wasn’t the man I knew myself to be.

I lost him in compromise after compromise, not the kind, accommodating acquiescence that limits relationship turbulence. I postured, then submitted weakly, femininely, to her masculine power, preferring to avoid the battlefield and the emotional damage.

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Anatta Phoenix
Anatta Phoenix

Written by Anatta Phoenix

Buddhist practitioner and writer. My autistic son is the focus of my spiritual practice. He inspires me with his love and companionship.

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